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Some schools have managed to completely transform their culture through Restorative Practice. ‘Restorative Justice’ can be used as an alternative to ‘Punitive Justice’ and focuses on addressing the root cause of the behaviour, what damage the behaviour has done and how to repair the damage. When done successfully it’s used to develop mutual respect, empathy, consideration, emotional intelligence, intrinsic motivation, taking responsibility and pretty much everything else we are trying to achieve when addressing behaviour!.

Restorative Practice principles can be incorporated into all aspects of school life but in this tip, we are focusing on responding to challenging behaviour or conflict in a way that avoids criticism, blame and retribution. A Restorative conference involves asking a pupil or a group of pupils, questions that promote reflective thinking and allowing others the opportunity to listen and empathise. The goal is for the pupils to come to realisations themselves about why they behaved in the way they did and the consequences of it. It uses the power of communication to build understanding and empathy between the different people involved, so respect and consideration drive positive behaviour, rather than just following school rules because they have to.

Rewards such as class points, praise, star of the day and merit certificates provide valuable recognition, fun and a strong sense of achievement which children thrive on, but there is a fine line between giving pupils much-needed recognition and relying on rewards to coerce work or good behaviour out of children against their will. We want children to primarily acknowledge that making positive choices is rewarding in and of itself and then use external rewards and praise to further reinforce that message. Similarly, with punishments, they can discourage destructive behaviour, but if a child is only being respectful to avoid punishment, children are motivated by self-preservation rather than consideration, respect and care for others. So how do we develop self-motivated pupils, who want to make positive decisions out of their autonomy? Restorative Practice is a great place to start.

As adults, we generally make decisions based on past experiences and the consequences of our actions. For example, we have learnt that the consequence of being disrespectful is that it damages relationships. We don’t like the consequences of damaging relationships, so treating people with respect becomes one of our core values. Contrary to what many disciplinarians might think, we haven’t learnt this through discipline, we have learnt it through making mistakes, damaging relationships, not liking the results, and doing something different the next time. This is the process that Restorative Practice nurtures.

Restorative Conference

A Restorative Conference takes place after the incident, once everyone involved has calmed down. The teacher’s role is similar to a counsellor. Their job is empathetic listening. Empathy isn’t the same as sympathy. Empathy is understanding someone else’s experience regardless of whether you agree or not. Often empathy is enough for a conflict to de-escalate because in many conflicts, peoples’ most significant unmet need is to be heard and understood. If two or more people are reflecting, each person will have a different experience of events and its likely they won’t agree. The listener’s initial job is to listen to everyone’s experience and check understanding.

The 6 Questions to behaviour reflection

 

1) What happened?

This is an opportunity to model the empathy and respect we want the pupil to develop. At this stage, the objective is for the pupil to feel understood and heard.

  • Listen (use facial gestures and body language, and small words eg. ‘yes’, ‘okay’, ‘I see’, ‘um’… to demonstrate active listening)
  • Ask questions if necessary
  • Check if you understand properly (do you mean…?)
  • If they use this as an opportunity to justify themselves, let them. The objective at this stage is for the pupil to feel heard and understood, not corrected.
  • If what the pupil is saying isn’t an accurate reflection of the truth ask inquisitive questions and check understanding: ‘are you saying that this happened?’

Click here to download the ‘Listening Wheel’ as part of our ‘Restorative Practice Pack’.

 

2) How were you feeling and what were you needing?

Simply identifying and understanding the underlying feelings and needs that cause behaviour can often be enough to resolve it. A Feelings and needs card can be really helpful for this. –

  • Suggest feelings and needs if necessary
  • Respond with empathetic body language and facial expressions.

Click here to download our ‘Feelings and Needs card’ as part of our ‘Restorative Practice Pack’.

 

3) What were you thinking?

The objective at this stage is to help the pupil express their perspective at the time of the incident. This is a great opportunity to for the listener to model empathy which de-escalates any existing conflict and lays the ground work for encouraging the pupil to empathise with others in the next question.

  • Listen
  • Ask questions
  • Check understanding

 

4) Who else has been affected? What do you think might be feeling?

The objective at this stage is to help the pupil develop empathy and emotional intelligence towards others. How you modelled empathy when listening to the pupil in the previous stages will directly impact how well the pupil will be able to empathise with others now.

  • Listen
  • Use the needs and feelings card
  • Ask questions
  • Make suggestions if necessary

 

5) What have you learnt and what will you do differently next time?

This is an opportunity to work with the pupil to find strategies moving forward for them to meet their needs in a way that will also be respectful of other people needs. If there doesn’t seem to be an easy solution, for example, they are bored in maths and they have rejected all ideas about how they could make it more fun for themselves, revert to empathy and sympathise with the challenge. The goal with Restorative Practice is to get everyone one step closer to meeting their needs whilst improving communication, understanding and empathy for one another

  • Listen
  • Ask questions
  • Check understanding
  • Summarise

 

6) How can the damage be repaired?

This step is often missed with ‘Punitive Justice’ where a pupil might have to do a detention but won’t necessarily repair the damage. Giving the responsibility to the pupil to correct their behaviour is arguably far more effective than a punishment for many reasons. The process of apologising to the class, replacing broken equipment, sanding down a defaced desk etc. deters them from doing it again without the need for punishment, it gives everyone involved a sense of resolution and anyone who was negatively impacted is left feeling touched rather than resentment.

Make Restorative Practice simpler and click here to download our ‘Restorative Practice Pack Featuring worksheets, a learning wheel, and needs and feelings cards, the pack is the ideal resource to support your classroom behaviour management. Some schools have managed to completely transform their culture through Restorative Practice.

Click here to download our ‘Think Sheet’ as part of our ‘Restorative Practice Pack’.